Israel and the US for democracy-their way

BBC

Israeli interim Prime Minister Ehud Olmert ruled out any talks with "an armed terror organisation that calls for Israel's destruction".

US President George W Bush said Washington would not deal with Hamas unless it rejected its call to destroy Israel.

So, if we are to understand this correctly, democracy is OK if the US is militarily present in the country, effectively occupying the country?
I have always opposed the killing of innocent civilians. This, however is the reality of war, as practiced by Hamas, Israel, the US and countless others.
For years Israel has had a policy of an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth regarding the war with Palestinan armed groups. This can be seen in Spielberg's latest film 'Munich', but it continues to this day. The same is true on the Palestinian side, but no-one in the Israeli flag-waving camp ever answers this most simple question:who has the might, who has the power, who has the fuctioning state? The election in Gaza, and most importantly the media coverage and political reactions to it are a farce, since there is no Palestinian state. I will repeat, as I have said before, that ideally, I am for a bi-national state, as I oppose any state defined along religious lines. This is the case in Israel, and it could well be the case in a Palestinian state, even if Palestinian does not mean Muslim.

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